Managing Challenging Behaviors Without Power Struggles
ByBraxton StormSeptember 4, 2025
Parenting often feels like a tug-of-war. You want your child to listen; they want independence. When those needs clash, the result is usually a power struggle — and nobody wins. The good news is that you can address challenging behaviors without turning every interaction into a battle.
👀 Notice the Pattern
Most power struggles happen when both parent and child feel unheard. Step back and ask: “Is my child testing limits, seeking attention, or overwhelmed?” Understanding the “why” often matters more than the “what.”
🛠️ Shift From Control to Guidance
Instead of, “Do this now because I said so,” try, “Here are two choices — which one works for you?” Giving limited options maintains structure while giving your child a sense of control.
🌱 Stay Calm & Consistent
Your tone and body language matter. When you stay calm, you model self-regulation. Consistency (same expectations, same follow-through) helps kids feel secure.
💡 Takeaway
The goal isn’t to “win” the struggle. It’s to guide your child toward better choices while preserving your relationship.